Rejecting Relevance

So, I disappeared for a bit to really tap into my creativity in preparation for my first art show. Yes, it was amazing! See main below

Yep, that’s me!

But the real story here is swift the onset of panic when I came back to reality and realized I hadn’t been maintaining the flow of networking for my coaching practice. I immediately started thinking of all the people, places, and things I needed to move toward to restart the momentum.

Thankfully I didn’t go too far off the rails. Not too long ago, I’d seen the powerful speech Adele shared in which she talked about her conscious decision to prioritize her priorities instead of the unwritten rules of fame.

Now, fame is not on my bingo card for this life, but honestly, who knows where life will take me if I’m not fighting for my own plan. What I do know is that whatever rhythm I start with is the one I plan to maintain and chasing anything ain’t it.

If I strive to give value and quality to the world, it’s unreasonable to think that I’ll be able to sustain constantly churning it out. If I want to share the life lessons I’ve learned, I’ve got to give myself time to live and learn them. If I don’t want to live competitively with anyone and everyone around me, I need to not be around sometimes.

In my opinion, the need for relevance is fueled by the fear of being forgotten. I don’t hear a lot of people proclaiming this for themselves, but honey, I’m not afraid of being forgotten. First of all, I think it’s hard to forget me, but even if you do, I’ve lost nothing because my value doesn’t lie in your attention. I work so that the things I offer to the world have a longer lifespan than I do; that they’re more impactful than my name. DO YOU KNOW HOW FREEING THAT IS!?

If I’m planting a tree, I don’t need each person to know who did it. If I’m feeding the masses, I don’t need them to know the chef’s name. If I’m making a difference, then I’m doing something different, which means I’m not trying to ‘stay’ so I get to just be.